Am I OK? Are You OK?
What does it really mean to be “OK”? Is there a formula that we need to follow to in order to be okay? When are we okay? Is it when we feel loved and respected, or when we feel someone … Continued
How Survivors Play Out Their Life Games on the Game Triangle
All Psychological Games get played from one of three positions. These can be seen in action on the Survivor’s Triangle. I call it the “Survivor’s Triangle,” because, while games are destructive, you play them in response to whatever you were … Continued
Common Reasons for the Games People Play
In the previous article I talked about a very delicate and manipulative game we grown-ups play sometimes. The game is ‘Why Don’t You…?’ and ‘Yes, but…’ Some people have played so much; they don’t even realize that they are playing … Continued
An Example of the Games People Play
Grown-ups mind games: ‘Why don’t you..?’ and ‘Yes, but…’ When we were children, we all used to play games, most of them funny and harmless. The older we got the more intensive the games became. And because a child’s mind … Continued
The Purpose of the Games People Play
People often ask me – why are relationships so complicated? The short answer is – because there are two in the game. The games people play are a complicated mix of roles that are lived out unconsciously and driven by … Continued
The Games People Play
One thing is certain – human relationships are a complicated maze that has no entry or exit signs. It’s as if we start a relationship with our eyes closed, groping our way to the entrance of the maze but without … Continued
Relationship Rules for Effective Communication (Part 1)
Do you know this feeling? You are angry. You want to throw yourself at your partner both physically and verbally. You want to show them how much they are wrong and how right you are with all your strength. There … Continued
Fighting Fair
There is an old children’s game known all around the world called “hide-and-seek”. No matter where you are geographically you might find differences in the name but not in the rules of the game. They are very simple: one kid … Continued
Why Couples Fight?
Adam and Emily had been in a relationship for two years and were contemplating marriage. The issue however was that they could never agree on anything and even less so when the conversation turned to how they might fulfill their marriage vows. Adam … Continued
Playing Out I Am Not OK and You Are Not OK
How each of the Game Positions Plays Out I Am Not OK and You Are Not OK Every year the Academy presents the Award for Best Motion Picture – Drama or Serial distinguished by exclusive audience interest. In real life, however, there is … Continued