As a child grows and has its physical needs met, there is also a fundamental need to feel safe from harm – bodily and emotionally. As with all of these fundamental needs, this need remains the same throughout life. “Safety” … Continued
What I have learned from my many years in a relationship, and as a Relationship Counsellor, Coach and Therapist, is that there are several fundamental human needs that need to be satisfied for someone to have a happy life and … Continued
I use the acronym TOUCH to remember the five ways of funding my love bank. T is for Time Relationships aren’t part-time arrangements. And, if your relationship is fed on left-over time (the time you have after everything else has … Continued
Some people realize they are having problems at an early stage in their relationship while others they only realize there have been problems when their relationship is about to break down. As with every other couple, with Lyn and James, … Continued
Vanessa and Mark’s Games Most often on the surface, things can look really good or really bad, depending on what exactly we’re looking at as well as the angle of our perspective. Some couples are envied for the way their … Continued
How and Why Games Began It seems that Tamara and Alex’s game began when had their first child. However, in truth, the root of the issues presenting themselves has a longer history and it starts with Alex’s early life. As … Continued
Tamara and Alex’s Games Things need to be clear in order to be understood. By clear I mean the background story and the connection to the current issues to it need to be understood to fully comprehend what the current … Continued
Beth and Roger’s Games – What Obstructed Their Relationship Progress? There are few things that obstructed Beth and Roger‘s relationship. Surely the first thing to mention is the miscommunications between them. Having in mind their childhood experiences and the way … Continued
One thing is certain – human relationships are a complicated maze that has no entry or exit signs. It’s as if we start a relationship with our eyes closed, groping our way to the entrance of the maze but without … Continued
I met a client yesterday who told me that for no apparent reason or cause her partner came to her one day and told her he wasn’t happy. He said he wanted to take six months living separately from her … Continued