To Forgive or To Forget

Some people say that forgiveness means giving up all hope for a better past. Ironically, the future and the present are caused by the past, and thereby the past becomes our future and the present defines our past. And the … Continued

Couples Counselling Without a Couple

People often wonder whether Couples Counselling works when one partner isn’t present at the counselling session. Absolutely, yes, it works. If one of the partners change, then the other will respond to the changes. Of course, this does not guarantee … Continued

Creating Change Through Counselling (Part 1)

The Main Categories of Counsellors Many people are somewhat afraid and ashamed when it comes to help, especially on the topic of feelings, mentality and psyche. Realizing there’s a problem and a need for it to be solved is the … Continued

What Games Do our Couples Play? (Part 1)

  Beth and Roger’s Games The story of Beth and Roger may look superficial or like nothing is really happening and affecting their relationship, but if the situation is analysed and looked at more closely, a lot of underwater details … Continued

Drama-Free Life: Is It Possible?

Life Is Not a TV Drama Is it possible to live a drama free life? Is it necessary to have drama in our lives in order to feel balanced when it is over? Isn’t it easier to just exclude even … Continued

Getting What You Want from Your Partner

Pavlov’s Dogs and Skinner’s Theory of Conditioning Ivan Pavlov, a Russian Physiologist, and BF Skinner, a US Psychologist, are most well known for their experiments with behaviour in the early 1900s. You might recall hearing about Pavlov’s behaviour modification experiments … Continued

Responding Assertively to Game Playing

I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells … Continued

Detecting Games in the Relationship

The Story of Lyn and James “Lyn” and “James” have been married for ten years and have three children. When they first met, Lyn had just left school. James was fifteen years older and had already been in the workforce … Continued

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