Sex and the Stress Factor
Many couples use the state of their sex life as a barometer for what is going on in the rest of their relationship. I also suggest that the converse works as well: what is going on in your relationship and … Continued
How Often Is Normal?
“How often is normal?” is a perennial question. There is really no answer, because what is normal for one couple may be quite different for another. But what is normal for them depends on how they both respond to a … Continued
Libido Differences Between Men and Women
Although it is not always the case, men tend to be turned on sexually more easily than women. Men may also be turned on more easily by sexual stimuli, including fantasy. In addition, sexual tension in a healthy male … Continued
Sexual Inhibitors and Sexual Enhancers
Each of us has our own turn-ons and turn-offs, and our degree of ease around each of these will impact how responsive we are to each other at any given time—not just sexually, but in all of our most … Continued
Sexual Closeness, the Ultimate Love Language
Sex doesn’t always mean love, but love is very much linked to sex. It is the one very special way you can express your love with your partner, at your most vulnerable. We all know that for a relationship to … Continued
Transactional Analysis Ego States Theory
Many years ago, people believed that a healthy relationship looked like this: two complementary halves making a whole. Now we understand that a relationship that looks like this is far from complementary and where generally one person in the couple … Continued
The Language of Love
Please speak my language In general, if you aren’t showed love the exact way you imagined love looks, it doesn’t at all mean that you aren’t loved. It has nothing to do with lack of love, but with the fact … Continued
To Forgive or To Forget
Some people say that forgiveness means giving up all hope for a better past. Ironically, the future and the present are caused by the past, and thereby the past becomes our future and the present defines our past. And the … Continued
The Power of Gratitude
Which Scenario Best Fits Your Relationship? You wake up in the morning and lean over to your partner for a good morning kiss and hug or you grab your mobile, ignoring the person beside you, as you roll out of … Continued
Couples Counselling Without a Couple
People often wonder whether Couples Counselling works when one partner isn’t present at the counselling session. Absolutely, yes, it works. If one of the partners change, then the other will respond to the changes. Of course, this does not guarantee … Continued