Category Love

July 2, 2018,  Love, Relationship, Sex  No comments

Each of us has our own turn-ons and turn-offs, and our degree of ease around each of these will impact how responsive we are to each other at any given time—not just sexually, but in all of our most intimate moments.

Sexual inhibitors and enhancers (we can think of them as intimacy inhibitors and enhancers), can be broadly categorised into four different types: physical, psychological, partner (the way you act in relationship), and place: the “four P’s” of Intimacy.

Sexual Inhibitors

Physical

• Libido differences
• Tiredness or physical fatigue
• Physical discomfort (headache, injury, illness)
• Poor general health
• Excess intake of alcohol or medications

Psychological

• Lack of emotional wellbeing (stress, anger, fear, guilt, sadness, anxiety, shame)
• Low self-esteem
• Inadequate understa...

May 7, 2018,  Love, Relationship, Sex  No comments

Sex doesn’t always mean love, but love is very much linked to sex. It is the one very special way you can express your love with your partner, at your most vulnerable.

We all know that for a relationship to remain healthy it requires open communication; exposing yourself honestly and emotionally to another person. It’s the same with sex. It’s just another way of having a conversation with your most loved. Most importantly, this should be the place in your relationship where you are most safe to have the freedom to express yourself in an open and honest way.

It’s seems to be a fairly common belief that being sexual and achieving sexual satisfaction are automatic responses that just click in out of nowhere if the right buttons are pressed and if the “recipe” is followed correctly...

May 1, 2018,  Counselling, Games People Play, Life, Love, Relationship, Script  No comments

Many years ago, people believed that a healthy relationship looked like this: two complementary halves making a whole. Now we understand that a relationship that looks like this is far from complementary and where generally one person in the couple dominates the other.

People need first to be whole within themselves in order to be happy with another person.

If we look at this issue from a Transactional Analysis perspective, according to that theory, we all have a mixture of personalities; we don’t just have one way of being. Instead, in different places with different people, we can actually relate quite differently as well. Berne described these different personality styles as “ego states...

February 26, 2018,  Family, Fundamental Human Needs, Life, Love, Relationship, Script  No comments

Please speak my language

In general, if you aren’t showed love the exact way you imagined love looks, it doesn’t at all mean that you aren’t loved. It has nothing to do with lack of love, but with the fact that we all of us have been scripted not only to value ourselves and others in particular ways, but also in the way we prefer to be shown love. We tend to create a picture of how we see love and this turns into the language of love that we speak with our partner.

Although you experience the expression of love from another in many ways they broadly group together according to the five senses. In the early stage of falling in love our senses become extra sensitive when we’re close to someone...