November 12, 2020,
Fundamental Human Needs, Life, Love, Relationship 
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“Spiritual needs” refers to the highest-order needs, those on the top rung of the ladder. While present in the child, these needs may actually lie hidden until the needs further down the ladder are met and satisfied. This is simply because the Spiritual Needs take you out of the realm of the physical world and into that of the metaphysical which requires, in the first instance, a capacity to think outside of the self, a skill that generally develops through time.
As an adult in a happy and fulfilling relationship, feeling happy and content in your own life, your spiritual needs consist of the certainty that your spiritual journey, however you define it, is supported by your partner, and by others who are important to you, without judgment or criticism.
Some people think that fulfilling each other’s spiritual needs is about going to church together. While it might be, it is not necessarily. It’s more about knowing (or even just feeling) that your beliefs, and what you regard as important to you, as well as your way of living those beliefs are respected and encouraged, if not shared, by your partner.
You may simply want your partner to appreciate the spiritual path that you are on, which actually may be quite different from his or hers, and for you both to know that your different paths in no way threaten your relationship or who you are as part of a couple.
However, when two people in a couple are truly connected with each other, their spiritual paths are more than likely also linked. Their lives, just as those of a mother and her child, will become inextricably linked in every way: physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually.
Beth and Roger are currently struggling to have their spiritual needs met. They are simply not on this level yet. And as already mentioned, until the lower-rung needs are met, the higher-rung needs cannot be met. So, for now, Beth and Roger have some work to do before they are ready to have this need satisfied and discover the real possibilities for their relationship.
As shown in the story of Beth and Roger if something is not going well for you it is fairly likely that your fundamental needs are not being met somehow and that more specifically it might be that one or another is particularly being neglected.
If you and your partner are considerate of both your own needs as well as each other’s and accept each other’s right to have those needs satisfied, then you have the beginnings of a truly passionate relationship.
When all these needs are satisfied in your relationship, they open the way for you to live the often only-dreamed-of “fairy tale.” You will have truly discovered the secret to “happily ever after.”
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