May 22, 2014,
Fundamental Human Needs 
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Each of us has passed through the flower market or nursery in our city filled with aromas of a variety of wonderful flowers. Step by step, while entering deeper into garden, we discover the beauty of nature collected in a single aroma, form, and shape.
Each plant is different from the others, just as each human is different, but we all have something in common and these are the layers that build our personalities. Just as flowers have petals covering the hearts of their stamens; our human essence is also built of layers of needs ending with the layer of our Spiritual Needs. Layer by layer we are walking towards the very peak of our own needs reaching the highest level: Spiritual Needs.
“Spiritual Needs” refer to the highest-order needs, those on the top rung of the ladder. While present in the child, these needs may actually lie hidden until the needs further down the ladder are met and satisfied. This is simply because the Spiritual Needs take you out of the realm of the physical world and into that of the metaphysical which requires in the first instance a capacity to think outside of the self, a skill that generally develops through time.
As an adult in a happy and fulfilling relationship, feeling happy and content in your own life, your spiritual needs consist of the certainty that your spiritual journey, however you define it, is supported by your partner, and by others who are important to you, without judgment or criticism.
Some people think that fulfilling each other’s spiritual needs is about going to church together. While it might be, it is not necessarily and even for those who do follow a spiritual path through their church it really is much more than that.
It’s more about knowing (or even just feeling) that your beliefs, and what you regard as important to you, as well as your way of living those beliefs are respected and encouraged, if not shared, by your partner.
You may simply want your partner to appreciate the spiritual path that you are on, which actually may be quite different from his or hers, and for you both to know that your different paths in no way threaten your relationship or who you are as part of a couple.
However, when two people in a couple are truly connected with each other, their spiritual paths are more than likely also linked. Their lives, just as those of a mother and her child, will become inextricably linked in every way: physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually.
To have all of your fundamental needs met is vital to your feelings of wellbeing, both within yourself as well as in your relationship.
If you and your partner are considerate of both your own needs as well as each other’s and accept each other’s right to have those needs satisfied, then you have the beginnings of a truly passionate relationship. When all these needs are satisfied in your relationship, they open the way for you to live the often only-dreamed-of “fairy tale.” You will have truly discovered the secret to “happily ever after.”
Write to me and share with me your own personal discoveries connected with your willingness to communicate in harmony, in patience, understanding, and layering of you relationship with your partner. Do you feel satisfied that your Spiritual Needs are being acknowledged and maybe even met? Share with me the story of your journey to this place.
To the wonder of you,
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