You might even think that if only the other person could change or be more like they used to be when you first met, then everything would be OK. On the other hand, you might distract yourself by having an … Continued
Couples who come into my office are often surprised that the partners they fell in love with seem to have become quite different people. Sometimes, knowing the mistakes their parents made in their relationships, couples have openly vowed not to … Continued
Many years ago, people believed that a healthy relationship looked like this: two complementary halves making a whole. Now we understand that a relationship that looks like this is far from complementary and where generally one person in the couple … Continued
People often wonder whether Couples Counselling works when one partner isn’t present at the counselling session. Absolutely, yes, it works. If one of the partners change, then the other will respond to the changes. Of course, this does not guarantee … Continued
Limiting Feelings, Limiting Beliefs and Limiting Behaviours There are various ways to relieve yourself from a script and a game your mind is used to playing. Many of these are therapeutic which includes many different techniques and practices. In the … Continued
Some people realize they are having problems at an early stage in their relationship while others they only realize there have been problems when their relationship is about to break down. As with every other couple, with Lyn and James, … Continued
Why Do We Play Games? Just as we need two people to agree to tango so too it takes two people to subconsciously agree to play the psychological games we all play. However, they don’t realize how exactly the game … Continued
Life Is Not a TV Drama Is it possible to live a drama free life? Is it necessary to have drama in our lives in order to feel balanced when it is over? Isn’t it easier to just exclude even … Continued
I will illustrate the topic with an example from the story of “Lyn” and “James”. At one time Lyn decides to take her children on vacation with a girlfriend and her children for a few days. But when Lyn tells … Continued
When you get that feeling in the pit of your stomach that something is about to explode then it might be an indicator that you are being invited into a game. It might be something that someone else says or … Continued