How Often Is Normal?

September 17, 2018,  Family, Life, Love, Relationship, Sex  No comments

“How often is normal?” is a perennial question.

There is really no answer, because what is normal for one couple may be quite different for another.

But what is normal for them depends on how they both respond to a whole array of things that reflect the state of the couple at any given moment.

Note, too, that some couples prefer frequent sex, and some do not. In fact, some couples have a very happy relationship without any sex at all. Let me qualify any misconception here by saying that the use of the term “sex” in this discussion refers to the physical act of intercourse. For many though, for whatever reason, intercourse is not possible, but this does not preclude these people’s capacity for closeness in a very intimate or even sexual way by some other definition of the term.

The second Australian Study of Health and Relationships reveals that:

• On average, people in regular relationships have sex about 1.4 times a week.
• People in their 60s have sex about once a week on average.
• Most people would ideally like to have sex about 2–4 times a week.

Common things that influence frequency Include:

• Each person’s level of physical energy
• Health problems
• Stress levels
• Unimaginative, predictable, boring sex
• Emotional distance or unresolved conflict

The good news is that all of these are repairable. Remember to address each of these from the Winner’s Triangle: be Assertive, Nurturing, and Aware.

To the wonder of you,

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