A Rose By Any Other Name
I would like to say something about the title of my book Love, Lies, and the Games Couples Play. Put simply, love, and all that it embodies for us, is what each of us seeks in life above all else. … Continued
The Five Secrets to a Successful Relationship – Part 2
Love – A Never-Ending Story While I ended this story with “She lived happily ever after,” in truth, the “ever after” has not come to be yet. The story is really never ending. Every day offers my partner and me … Continued
The Three Capacities for Autonomous Living – Part 3
Berne, like many others studying human behaviour at the time, suggests that a childlike stance is more likely to occur in a person’s third or fourth decade of life, after the skills to ensure survival have been fully developed. By … Continued
Sex and the Stress Factor
Many couples use the state of their sex life as a barometer for what is going on in the rest of their relationship. I also suggest that the converse works as well: what is going on in your relationship and … Continued
How Often Is Normal?
“How often is normal?” is a perennial question. There is really no answer, because what is normal for one couple may be quite different for another. But what is normal for them depends on how they both respond to a … Continued
The Language of Love
Please speak my language In general, if you aren’t showed love the exact way you imagined love looks, it doesn’t at all mean that you aren’t loved. It has nothing to do with lack of love, but with the fact … Continued
Couples Counselling Without a Couple
People often wonder whether Couples Counselling works when one partner isn’t present at the counselling session. Absolutely, yes, it works. If one of the partners change, then the other will respond to the changes. Of course, this does not guarantee … Continued
Creating Change Through Counselling (Part 1)
The Main Categories of Counsellors Many people are somewhat afraid and ashamed when it comes to help, especially on the topic of feelings, mentality and psyche. Realizing there’s a problem and a need for it to be solved is the … Continued
Is The Life You Have Good Enough?
Limiting Feelings, Limiting Beliefs and Limiting Behaviours There are various ways to relieve yourself from a script and a game your mind is used to playing. Many of these are therapeutic which includes many different techniques and practices. In the … Continued
What Games Do Couples Play? (Part 7)
Some people realize they are having problems at an early stage in their relationship while others they only realize there have been problems when their relationship is about to break down. As with every other couple, with Lyn and James, … Continued