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September 5, 2024,  Family, Life, Love, Relationship, Relationship Tips  No comments

The ultimate goal for every relationship is “happily ever after.” When you are at this stage, you just know in your heart that it is exactly where you should be. It really is about forever and knowing in your heart that it will never be any other way.

This stage is about being independent of and interdependent with your partner at the same time. It is where the two of you, your separate “me’s,” exist side by side and the “we” becomes the concrete that binds you. It is the place where the two of you have the capacity to achieve even more together than separately.

A study done with sled dogs symbolizes the unbelievable power of couples in this stage of their relationship...

March 29, 2024,  Family, Life, Love, Relationship, Relationship Tips  No comments

The second relationship stage that normal, healthy couples pass through is one of rediscovering their differences and managing the uneasiness that comes with it. Despite what you believed in Stage 1, there really are differences between you. These deserve to be recognized and celebrated.

Eventually, as each of you begins to reemerge from the couple bubble that first encapsulated you, differences between you begin to surface and expose themselves more clearly.

Parts of you or your partner that may have been quiet or unrecognized begin to emerge. The three D’s—disenchantment, disillusionment, and disappointment, arise as you now become more aware of each other’s imperfections—maybe even for the first time.

And as the Honeymoon concludes and replaced with some disillusion...

July 12, 2023,  Games People Play, Life, Script  No comments

The life that you ultimately come to live, and all that you think, feel, say, and do in it, is for the most part lived out subconsciously through the psychological games you play, and which are especially evident in your relationships.

Eric Berne, the same person who developed script theory, proposed that we play these psychological games for one reason only: as a way to find confirmation or validation for our deeply held values and beliefs about ourselves and about others: our life script.

To clarify this further, let’s refer back to the life positions Victor, Vi...

March 6, 2023,  Life, Love, Relationship  No comments

This is what I believe about similarities and differences between individuals in relationships: while differences often attract us to another, in the long term, our similarities—areas of compatibility— keep us together.

So, I think that it is good for you—necessary, even—to take a really close look at your partner to discover who he or she truly is. Learn from your partner as you acquire for yourself some of his or her good qualities as you review and recreate your own personal script. Notice also the impact of your script on your partner.

If you are in a healthy relationship, you will actually do this naturally (sometimes consciously and sometimes not)...